A Family and Infertility

Communication. It is so vital and necessary. But the silly thing is that we as humans aren't all that great at it. There is a formula for communication. Words make up only 14%, Tone makes up 35% and Non-Verbal makes up a whopping 51%. Non-verbal makes up just more than half of effective communicating, yet so often we only use words by things such as texting and that is only 14% of the formula. This is why it is so easy to misunderstand and be misunderstood over text.  Communication isn't just being effective in the way you share thoughts and feelings it is also being an effective listener. It is important that when you share a thought or feeling that the person you are sharing with responds or gives feedback in some way. This is the only way that you know your message was received and that it was correct. Sometimes we can share something and it may be misunderstood. When we receive feedback we have the opportunity to correct misinterpreted messages. We can also feel comfort and

Stress. Stress is really hard. T here are so many things in life that can bring us stress. Often times when people say that they are stressed or that they are experiencing stress there's often a negative connotation that we attached to that word. In reality, stress is a good thing. I know that sounds crazy. Stress, good? No way. The truth is that having stress strengthens us. Every day we put stress on our bodies, this builds our muscle mass and bone density. This is why the number one concern for astronauts is after they come back they become weak because they've been living in an environment with no stress on their bodies. This suggests that stress is good. But how do we cope with stress? Or how do we make it so we don't let this stress turn into distress. Distress is the feeling of when we perceive that there is no escape from the danger that we are facing. Our bodies are so cool and when we sense a danger our limbic system takes over and increases our heartrates and bre

Intimacy is a very intimidating word. When I think of intimacy I think of being close and open with someone and that be challenging at times. When you are going through any trial it can be easy to compare your situation to other peoples. The grass is always greener on the other side, right? But typically when we are focusing on something else we often neglect what is right in front of us.  When facing infertility, someone could blame their spouse if there was something medically wrong that could be prohibiting a pregnancy. You could think that if you just were with someone else then you could have what you want, a child. You might start to look at other people or past relationships and think that if you were just with them then you might not be in this situation. The truth is that trials and struggles can really help a relationship to grow stronger. In my marriage we have always viewed our situation in the way that we were both experiencing it together and equally. We have noticed that